Aaron D. Neufeld- BLOG #3- ‘Would I Date Someone Living in a Car?’

Aaron D. Neufeld- BLOG #3- ‘Would I Date Someone Living in a Car?’

Would I date someone living in a car? It seems like the obvious and easy answer would be no. But I think there are deeper aspects to the question than that. How did the person end up in these living conditions and what does this person mean to me? Who are they? Did I know them previously to them living out of their car? A lot comes into play. There are two basic ways I look at this question and think of an answer.

I can picture myself falling in love with someone, spending time with them, talking for endless hours with them, listening to their work day, going over to their home and meeting their family. Then hard times fall upon my lover and things get really bad. I stick it out and stay strong with them and hope things will pass. But things don’t and after some time, my lover is living out of their car. Now, what would I do in this situation? Would I simply bail on someone who means so much to me and who I know so deeply? No way. I would get them help and probably open up my own home to them. I’d speak to my parents, my friends, my relatives. I’d do anything I could to make sure my lover could live and we could still be happy together. I would be with the person every step of the way.

However, a much different way of looking at it, is if I didn’t know the person. Perhaps I went on a blind date or met someone one night at a party and got their number and spent some time with them only to soon find out that they were living out of their car because of past hardships that led to their crappy situation. Although the story is the same, the timing isn’t. I don’t know this person well enough and I would think about myself before I thought about them. Would I want to get mixed up with someone living like this? I would think about never being able to spend time at their house or meet their family, etc. In one situation, I would absolutely date the person living in the car, and in another situation I wouldn’t dare get comfortable with them. When looking at a photograph of someone living in a car, and asking myself if I would date them, it depends. It depends at what point in my life I met this person. Again proving that a picture is worth so much more than a thousand words.