logic and cheating

So the discussion we had today about the semiotic square brought up the not-relationship and people saying they need to "take time off." Someone voiced the belief that this statement basically just meant that the person (usually male) was trying to cheat. Another student said that it wasn't cheating since the couple technically isn't together. I think that it's bull and it absolutely means one of the people is trying to look for another person, to cheat or with some other agenda. And let's be honest, If a guy said he wanted to take a break, but the girl hooked up with someone before he did, he wouldn't get mad or be hurt? It would be a total lie if you say it's okay because they technically weren't together. People just aren't that logical, they're full of confusing emotions and contradictory feelings and thoughts. Even after people make a clean break, it's always hurtful to know that your former significant other has moved on even if it's just temporarily.Especially if they do it before you. No one likes to be the one left behind. I don't understand the mentality of people today, the need to cheat, the need for all these secrets and "forbidden" things. Maybe it's that the old private is the new public. Everyone has such easy access to one another now that sending an inappropriate message takes 1 minute and the click of a mouse. You can "fall in love" over the internet without ever meeting the person you spill your every thought to. It's amazing how different things are, even remembering when i was a kid and you had to call from your house phone in order to ask if your friend could come over. Now i can talk to 10 people without ever using my actual voice. Through all this technology we've made it so easy to displace guilt and do things that if we had to do in person, most people would be unable to do.