When you are having a good time, getting what you want, living the way you desire to live…….you say “I feel good, I love life, it’s all good”. However, if you are going through troubled times, you would say “I hate this, why?, this is bullshit, it’s not fair, I can’t believe this is happening to me”, etc. During “good times” when a person is able to do what he or she wants, can buy what he or she likes, the person would say “I’m having fun, I like it, Life is great”. However, when that same person is having a hard time, that person will feel different about “life”. He/she may feel that “life is not fair, Why is this happening, what did I do, this sucks”, etc. I am sure many of us felt that way throughout our life, yes?!. I think this is how we tend to think-when things are good-we feel good and “like what’s going on”, and when things are not so good or we are having a hectic time, we feel bad, feel angry, blame it on others and the world, and say to ourselves “it’s not fair, I hate it”.
At an earlier stage of your life when you were just a student dependent on your parents and going to college to get a degree so that you can become an engineer, physicist , doctor, etc, you felt uncertain during some point while pursuing your degree. You felt like things are not working out the way you want them to, and you don’t have any money, not until you get a ph.D and get hired. You had some fun as you worked toward achieving your goal which was earned by determination and lots of effort. Yet during those years of your life, at certain times, you felt as if it’s not fair that you are having such a hard time, not being able to do everything that you would like to do, you are having a hectic time, and you feel frustrated. Eventually, you get a PhD and get the job you pursued and start to feel very different about things from that point. You start to “like life, feel as if things are fair, feel very good about how you are living”, etc. Why is that?, Why do you think “things are fair, life is great” now?. Wasn’t life “fair” all along?. “Life was and is as it is”, you only felt that life was “unfair” and didn’t quite like how you handled whatever was happening in your life, or the things that happened to you. When you graduated and stated working as an engineer or doctor, etc, you felt much better about “everything”. Almost suddenly, everything was better, “life is good”.
It’s all a matter of “what you make of the situation”. You may be going though rough times for various reasons but another person in the same or similar or worse situation may not feel as bad and frustrated as you do at the moment. Another person in a similar situation might just feel “calm”, and feel “life is great”, and would not think that “life is not fair”. Why? Because he/she just does not perceive situation in such an unpleasant and uncertain way and say that “life is not fair, and I hate this”.
Whether you are having a hard time or not, your perception and judgment influences those “I hate this, life is not fair, this is so hard” thoughts . Compared to someone else who may be in a much worse situation compared to yours, he/she may not feel so bad and frustrated. When you think things are not they way they ought to be or they way you want them to be, just don’t feel that “it’s not fair”. The best thing to do is just be positive….”look up, not down”, you just have to think that things will get better as you pursue that state of life and environment mentally and physically with your thoughts, words, and actions. And then, you will think that “life is fair”…….because it was fair all along. The difference is that some people are not fair to one another, but you just have to make the most of your situation and make things work out for you and “life will be be fair”.
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