My history and my family is one big example of Oedipus complex. Point blank. In class I find myself thinking of direct examples of certain topics that apply to my dad mom brother grandparents…everybody! I don’t want this blog to become my online therapy session but it’s creepy to think about how many correlations there are in my life. I’m not going to get into the mechanics of my background just yet, but since I have 11 more posts to submit, I’m sure everybody eventually will have a decent understanding of my life. For now, the thing that stands out to me the most is the theme of ‘You marry/have sex with your mother, and you kill your father’. Now, for girls, is that the opposite? You hate your mother but in love with your father? I guess I’ve met hundreds of daddy’s girls but I’ve never been one of them, and I’ve never been a “momma’s boy” either (especially since I’m a girl). Now, we are attracted to guys who possess the same qualities, attributes, and traits as our fathers. This is probably not the best thing especially if they have negative tendencies, which most likely they have because we are human after all. Thus, feeding into the never ending chain/cycle of messed up-ness.
In class we talked about the fact that if we look for the opposite of our fathers, that in actuality their effect in our lives is still playing a part in our choice in ‘mate’. To me, this sucks. Because it’s like they win if you follow the template they’ve cut out for us, and they win if we purposefully don’t follow the template they’ve cut out for us. So what are we to do? How do we attain that happy medium? The heart wants what the heart wants in the end, right? It is frustrating as hell, how do we break away and re-program our brains?
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